Friday, August 28, 2009

Book Review - She Still Calls Me Daddy

She Still Calls Me Daddy
Building a New Relationship with Your Daughter After You Walk Her Down the Aisle.

By Robert Wolgemuth

First thank you to Thomas Nelson publishing for sending me this book to review. And I know what most of you are thinking...why would I be reading this book none of my girls are anywhere near going down the aisle and I am not their father! That's what I was wondering when I got this book. Why did I choose this one? It turns out however that it was actually a really good choice! My suggestion is that you buy this book if you are a woman about to get married, read it and then give it to your parents to read.

I learned a lot about what he calls the remodeling process. It's great because I can understand this. We are remodeling our home and understand how hard it can be. You get to a certain place and you want to give up.

He is great at giving Biblical examples of both good and bad ways of how your relationship should be after your daughter gets married. For one he gives the example of David's wife and how she was always called Saul's daughter and not David's wife. He mentioned how it should be different because you are giving away your daughter at her wedding and she becomes fully her husbands.

He also goes into how the marriage and letting go of your daughter can be a hard thing on your own marriage. That it's important to take that time to really keep connected with your wife, because really she is probably having a harder time with it.

He talks about how communication with your daughter will look different and how you should stick with up lifting conversations and cross examination comments are not allowed. They can cause difficulties. He also talks about how written communication is a great way, but to keep it to up lifting words.

Also the importance of your relationship with your son-in-law and how he is now the main man in her life, and it's important to keep the communication lines open and to not try and over step your bounds.

One of my favorite things he said in his book was that in the Hebrew language the word for sister is hardly ever found in the singular. This is because even if you only had one sister she was really like two sisters. The first sister before she got married, and the sister she would be after she got married. That really she becomes a different person.

My only complaint about this book is that it feels as if he is writing to a group of small children. He tends to repeat the same thing over again just in different words. I am sure he was just wanting to get his point across, but it kind of came across like he was speaking to children.

I would recommend this book.

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Fits and Fights

*Note* Keep in mind that I wrote most of this last night. Then was needed by a screaming child! So then I finished it this morning.


It seems like that is what's going on in the house right now. Fits from everyone and Fights from everyone. Jadelyn seems to be feeling left out. Liliana seems to be feeling left out. Scarletta seems to be feeling left out. Rayvena...she just feels fussy. It seems like eveyone feels left out and the way they deal with that is having fits and fighting. They love each other and they love why are they throwing fits and fighting with each other? What happen to the polite little girls that eveyone talks about?

My favorite part of the day is meal time. Because it seems like there are almost no tantrums going on. It's a time when we sit down as a family and talk. We seems to have lots of great conversations and lots of funny sayings come out of my children's mouths. Such as today...I bought a frozen pasta meal...they were 2 for $3 so I thought why not! But as I made it I noticed it wouldn't feed all of us...then I also said to Darrel "I could have made this better myself." Meaning I could have made the same dish and it would have tasted better. Jadelyn after about 5 minutes says. "Mom. I really don't like this. Could you please just make it better? " Sometimes I just wish I could be in their heads and hear their thoughts!

I also love meal time because we spend some of our time reviewing our Bible verse and talking about what it means. Right now as a family we are memorizing John 1. I can just hear you all now...and yes you read right the whole chapter of John 1. Yesterday we started a new verse. Verse 16..."From the fullness of his grace we have all received one blessing after another." I just think about all the blessings in my life. I think about my four little blessings that came one right after another. Even though they have fits and fight with each other they give me such joy everyday. So I love our Bible times not only because we are reading Gods word and having fun with it...but because our girls ask such great questions. Why did Jesus come to Earth? Why did Jesus die for us? And even though a lot of the questions are the same...I don't mind answering them. Because what a great thing to share with my girls than the love of Jesus. The fact that he came to die was for us! He came to save us from our sins. That with out his sacrifice there would be no way for us to go to God. I think of how I would give my life for my girls. I would die before I let anything happen to them. Jesus died for us so that we wouldn't have to die. And I think about how easy it would be for him to get out of it. He could have easily come down off the cross. He could have given into Satan's temptations. WOW! I think of all the fits I throw...and Jesus just keeps saying to me...I'm here for you.

Thursday, August 20, 2009

My mind goes blank...

So I have these days when my mind just goes blank. I can't really think or put words together very well. Can't seem to get myself moving and get word done. My poor kids seem to run crazy on those days...and by the end of the day I feel so tired that I just want to cry. Today has been one of those days.

Now most of you may think that this is just due to the fact that I have just had a baby. I like to call it baby brains. And part of it could be that. But it seems I have had this problem since I was in high school, and this is what I think it is...

I didn't really take care of myself during high school. I was anorexic/bulimic for a lot of that time, worst was during my senior year. Not many people noticed...well maybe they did, but they never said anything. There were very few people who ever made comments. During this time I noticed my train of thoughts being very different. My head was very cloudy and it was hard for me to concentrate. Words were hard for me to put together. Then when I started recovering I noticed my head being less cloudy. Although I would still have my days of total cloudiness.

So that has been my day today. It wasn't sunny or partly was pure cloudiness. I have to say though one things I am so thankful for is a God who is much bigger than me and much bigger than my cloudiness. He gives me strength to get up and say "tomorrow is a new day!" I look forward to what tomorrow brings. His mercies are new every morning.

Oh on a very cute side note. My girls were so cute today. They kept coming up to me and giving me hugs and kisses...and Liliana would just stand there and look at me with her big blue eyes and then say "Mom I love you so much!" I wish you could hear how she says it cause it would just melt your heart. My girls are such a gift from God!

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

What FUN!

I have been having fun the last few days. I mean take away the whining, crying, fussing and poop all over the place and it's been fun!

I have been taking pictures of the kids which always makes me smile! Then I have been crocheting a blankie for Rayvena, and while I was doing that got this awesome idea. The blankie is just a bunch of flower type looking things, and as I was working on one I thought...This would make a cute headband! And it sure does!!!!! Just checkout my facebook pictures.

Now I am still working on them and seeing what I can do...but I might try to sell them. We will see.

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

God has blessed me!

God has really blessed me with four beautiful girls. I have to say He has really out done Himself this time! Rayvena is for real the best baby! She eats like a champ and sleeps like and angel...not that angels actually sleep. My husband pointed that out to me! Clever one!

I think about what a blessing these girls are to me...and yet at times I feel so overwhelmed. I wonder why God would have trusted me with four kids. I think that I am not able to do this. I want so badly just to wrap these girls in love and give them all the attention they deserve, and yet I find myself so busy and overloaded that I feel they are getting the short end of the stick. Am I really cut out to be a mother?

I just keep thinking about the verse that says I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. It's just that relying on Christ can be such a hard thing for me to do. I don't always believe that He gives me the strength. I doubt him way too much. At first I was ashamed to share these thoughts thinking people would think I was a bad Christian. But you know what...I am human. And if God can handle my doubt and help me focus more on you think other Christians can too? Maybe knowing that someone else has a hard time with trusting God will help someone else find strength.

Keep your eyes on Christ.

What is Anxiety?

To start off my blog a little definition on anxiety from


1. distress or uneasiness of mind caused by fear of danger or misfortune: He felt anxiety about the possible loss of his job.
2. earnest but tense desire; eagerness: He had a keen anxiety to succeed in his work.
3. Psychiatry. a state of apprehension and psychic tension occurring in some forms of mental disorder.

1. fear, foreboding; worry, disquiet. See apprehension.

1. certainty, serenity, tranquillity.

I think for most of us anxiety hits at some time or another. I look at my family and realize that it hits people in my family quite a bit, especially women. I hate to use this word because I think it's over used and when people don't want to take blame they call things generational curses. Then I thought about it a bit more and really if something was going to convince me that there are generational curses this anxiety would be it. This is something that can cause women in my family to not be able to do things that they would normally love to do. Worry fills their hearts and without really understanding why, they are helpless. I was talking to Darrel about my anxiety and what was helping. The more I pray about it and the more I read my Bible and see what God has to say about it the better I feel. I have to say though this hasn't been the easiest thing for me to do. When I am having a hard time my first response is not to go to God. Isn't that just crazy? Someone who has saved my life over and over again, and I just don't think He can help me. That is one of my big problems...Thinking I can do is all on my own. It takes effort for me to pray to God when I don't feel good, but boy when I take the effort to get on my knees the end result is amazing! I have peace that passes all understanding! I have a God who can do all things! Isn't He amazing?

Thursday, August 6, 2009

Just Peace

I have been praying for peace a lot these past few weeks. Most of you could probably figure out why I am praying for peace, but to be honest I don't know if I am needing peace because of my kids. After having Rayvena I have felt a lot of anxiety. I really don't know why though. I think some of it must just be some hormones are really messed up stuff. I just keep praying and every time I pray I start to feel better. Then I stop praying and forget to spend time with the Lord and I just start all up again. Kind of shows you how much I need the Lord in my life! How much we all do...and how important prayer is to our lives.

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